Paloma Irving - 2022 Additions
title: Paloma Irving 2022 Additions
type: person
created: 2026-04-05
updated: 2026-04-05
sources: [diary-2022-part1]
2022 Diary References
Practical Support Role
Paloma serves as key practical helper for her father in London:
- Key management: Handles flat keys, resolves lock-out situations
- Utility management: Deals with gas/electricity companies (Bulb), bill payments
- Shopping assistance: Brings smooth soups, groceries as needed
- Emergency response: Available for urgent practical problems
Relationship with Jessica
Significant ongoing tension with sister
jessica-irving:
- Past conflicts: Jessica accused Paloma of being "party to her abuse she received at the hands of Bente"
- Family dynamics: Jessica refused Christmas meeting with Beatrice, citing "no relationship"
- Current status: Paloma unwilling to have dinner with Jessica without apology
- Impact on family: Creating complications for family gatherings and relationships
Financial Situation & Support
- Financial difficulties: Appears to be experiencing cash flow problems
- Father's assistance: Offered £400 for her mother (Pilar Sr), later given as direct support
- Business concerns: May be related to self-employment or business challenges
- Tax issues: Father specifically states won't pay HMRC bills but will help otherwise
Personal Life
- Son: adam-irving living independently nearby
- Pet: Dog named Bo, temporarily stayed with Julia (cleaner)
- Housing: Lives in London, visits father's flat regularly
- Transport: Has car (occasionally being repaired)
Business/Work
- Computer equipment: Had borrowed father's Mac, later given as gift
- Utility expertise: Handles complex utility company interactions
- Problem-solving: Able to deal with bureaucratic/technical issues father can't handle
Quotes from 2022
On Jessica conflict:
- "I would prefer to pass on having dinner with Jessica. She accused me and my sisters of being party to her abuse she received at the hands of Bente which is completely unacceptable" (2022-03-15)
On family dynamics:
- "She would need to apologise and explain before I see her again" (2022-03-15)
On practical support:
- "I will call them. I don't understand why they sent you that email?" - regarding Bulb utility company (2022-03-08)
Father's financial offer:
- "I will leave the choice to you: remember I shall be out from 2 pm to about 4:30 pm" - regarding shopping (2022-04-15)
Family Role & Responsibilities
- Primary London helper: Available for urgent practical issues
- Technical intermediary: Handles utility companies, bureaucratic problems
- Key holder: Manages access to father's flat when needed
- Emergency contact: First person called when problems arise
Mother Relationship (Pilar Sr)
- Financial support requested: Father wanted to send €400 to grandmother
- Spanish connection: Maintains connection to Madrid-based grandmother
- Cross-generational support: Facilitating financial help for elderly family member
Crisis Management Role
Several instances of Paloma handling father's practical emergencies:
- Lost keys incident: Coordinated with Julia (cleaner) to retrieve keys
- Utility problems: Resolved gas heating issues with Bulb company
- Technical issues: Fixed TV sound system problems
- Shopping needs: Brought appropriate food when father had eating difficulties
Personal Challenges 2022
- Financial stress: Appears to be experiencing significant money problems
- Family tensions: Ongoing conflict with Jessica affecting family dynamics
- Responsibility burden: Primary person father relies on for London-based help
- Business pressures: Referenced need for cash, possible business difficulties
Dog Ownership
- Pet: Bo, female dog
- Temporary care: Julia occasionally dog-sits when needed
- Father interaction: Dog reportedly bites father's hand during visits
- Regular companion: Brings dog on visits to father's flat
Relationship Evolution
The 2022 diary shows:
- Increased responsibility: More practical support needed as father ages
- Financial interdependence: Father supporting her, she supporting grandmother
- Family mediator role: Managing relationships between father and other family members
- Crisis point: Financial difficulties requiring father's direct intervention
- Ongoing utility issues: Regular problems with bills, companies, technical matters
Social Dynamics
- Limited social events: Family dinners often complicated by Jessica tensions
- Protective of father: Ensures he gets practical help when needed
- Boundary issues: Sometimes frustrated with father's demands or expectations
- Multi-generational support: Helping both father and grandmother financially
Geographic & Practical Context
- London-based: Lives and works in London, convenient for father support
- Central location: Able to respond quickly to father's flat-based emergencies
- Local knowledge: Familiar with father's utility companies, local services
- Transport available: Has car when not being repaired, can drive father when needed